Caregiver: Ditch The Guilt

I found that being available for myself was especially important, because if I wasn’t functioning well, nothing else with my mom or my family would either. I found myself by exercising, watching, anything that was funny or streaming platforms and hiring helpers for four hours a week who could take my mothers to her hair appointments and food shooing when she could no longer drive. It’s important not to feel guilty about “me time” it’s not selfish; it’s self-preservation- Elizabeth Ward

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Abandonment

Abbott was in a full sprint, running so fast the neighborhood dogs were howling at his heels, and you could hear his laughter rise above them. A woman watched from her yard. She couldn’t remember the last time she ran wild she decide it was time…. surprise yourself…Do something with abandon

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Passive-Aggressive: Examples

The origami flower fluttered out of my  career journal. When I unwrapped and smoothed it out, it revealed notes from a work shop I had taken during graduate school. The page read:

Sometimes people unintentionally inconvenience you. For example, they may find it challenging to be on time, and their lateness may cause a negative chain reaction in your day. The behavior may not have the intention of bothering you, though.

When someone is late only when meeting with you, that may be an example of passive-aggressive behavior.

Explains common examples of passive-aggressive behaviors may include:

  1. making sarcastic comments at your expense, with the excuse of, “I was only joking”
  2. saying “yes” to projects and tasks with the intent of not completing them
  3. excluding you from group activities, like co-worker luncheons or casual coffee chats
  4. spitefully procrastinating to impact you, even if they care about the project
  5. acting as though something inconsequential you said or did caused them significant distress
  6. holding onto grudges to bring them up later, no matter how minor
  7. putting you down when asking for your help
  8. targeting the topics they know you’re sensitive about
  9. ignoring you, sometimes walking away from a conversation
  10. offering backhanded compliments, like “You look great today since you finally washed your hair”
  11. saying they misunderstood you any time you ask them to take responsibility
  12. using the silent treatment
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Humor

Building bridges through humor and humanity will never cease to amaze me.

Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real-life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging”, as I know each of these pieces represents something…

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Brown Skin Girls

I was always told if you don’t have anything to say, or are stuck for words, you simply say, “Thank you”. Therefore, I say thank you to Derrick for this beautiful photo. When I first saw it at Derrick j Knight, I thought I know these women, hell, I could be one of these women (can you guess which one?) if I grew up abroad in London and not in North America. I  outreached to Derrick and asked if I could have a copy. He was happy to oblige. I have to say I love this photo, and had to have it printed in color and black and white. After seeing it in black and white I had to order yet another silver frame, and hang it on my gallery wall of other beautiful black and white prints. The piece has become a wonderful conversational piece, as friends and family swear they know and/or grew up with these women. I assure them they have not, but then again aren’t we all connected…Thank you Derrick for this wonderful piece of art.

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