When I was 5, I showed my father the back of my hand: “This is my Indian side.” I flipped my hand over: “And this is my white side.” My father indulged me until I was about 7, when he patiently explained, “That’s not how it works, love. Everyone’s palms are lighter than the backs of their hands. You don’t literally have ‘two sides.’” Now, at 29, I look at my light brown hand and still see both of my parents — but also possibility in their mixture. I have two sides, and I create a third. — Sitara Mahtani
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Keep your ‘say-to-do’ ratio as close to 100 percent as possible. Strive to doeverything you say you will, and do not commit to doing something you aren’t likely to be able to do.” — Joshua Swiss, Glasgow
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How do I tell my mother who has dementia that a relative is dying or has passed away?
You should first consider if knowing that will actually benefit your mom.
What would she do with that information? Would she remember if you told her the truth? Or would she get upset, forget about it, and later, ask and get upset all over again?
Depending on where someone is in the disease, giving them upsetting news may not be good for them or you. If they’re still able to process and retain that information, you might want to tell them.
But if their short-term memory is poor and they get easily upset or scared, it will probably be better to avoid the subject or even tell a fib. That helps you avoid hurting them with information they won’t be able fully understand.
Another thing to think about is if sharing this news is really for them or if it’s more for yourself. For many, it can be about easing the guilt of “withholding” information.
But when someone has dementia, you shouldn’t feel guilty about not giving them news that will only upset or scare them.
They won’t have the ability to work through their feelings like you would, so not telling them is actually kinder and more appropriate for the situation.
Bad things happen. These bad things are a matter of “when,” not “if.” If you own a car, it will need repairs. If you have a pet, it will get sick. If you have a corporeal form, you will need to take it to a doctor’s office or urgent care at some point.
Start small. If you get $400 together, you’re already ahead of one-third of Americans. Make that your first goal, and then work up to an amount that would cover a big unexpected expense, like a car repair or a last-minute plane ticket. (When I was in hardcore debt-paydown mode, $2,000 was a solid number for me.)
From there, many financial experts recommend setting aside three to six months of necessary expenses for a major financial emergency like losing your job. For a lot of people, three to six months of expenses might sound like an astronomical amount. Don’t panic. Note that that’s not the same thing as three to six months of what you typically spend in a month. If you abruptly lost your job, you would probably cut back on extras and cancel some subscriptions. So when you’re figuring out how much your job loss emergency fund should be, only add up the things you have to pay each month no matter what.
Park your emergency fund in a high-yield savings account. It might be tempting to invest that money or put it in a CD or other savings vehicle, but the whole point of this money is that it is liquid to you in case of an emergency. As interest rates rise, your savings account interest should be rising too. Tu said: “Don’t settle” for a few tenths of a percent when you could be getting 2% or higher. Shop around at a site like NerdWallet or Bankrate and make sure your rate is competitive.
It’s starts with a seed you’re like the seed from which a plant grows – almost everything you need to be fully who you are is already inside of you waiting for the things that nurture you. The things that bring you to life.
Positively Purging-I welcome your feedbacks in the comments and your likes and passing the real life wisdom on to others as I embark on this new venture of “positively purging“, as I know each of these pieces represents something…
